Your big day is all about celebrating your future with your partner — but what about the trusted tribe standing by your side? While your guests are typically in the gift-giving seat, the happy couple often pays homage to their wedding party prior to taking their vows. From ‘yes’ to ‘I do’ and all the details in between, your besties bring so much to the journey and it can be challenging to encapsulate that into a gift. Ahead, we’ll look into traditions and tips for treating your dream team to something they’ll treasure.

While weddings can be structured a myriad of ways, bridesmaids and groomsmen have been a fairly common fixture for centuries — but where does the concept come from? A ritual that dates back to Ancient Rome, what we consider the modern-day wedding party still shares similarities with its roots. Much like today, witnesses were also a requirement for weddings in the Eternal City. With a much higher legal minimum of 10 witnesses, this rule was in place for a different reason than you might think. Used as a method of diversion, the witnesses were made to dress like the bride and groom in order to drive off evil spirits and jealous onlookers. Ironically, those protective qualities seem to have expanded to the tradition itself. While we stan any story where fashion is the hero, this particular practice had permeated history nearly unchanged for an impressive 4,000+ years. It wasn’t until the early 1900’s that brides broke away from matching their bridesmaids. Primarily used in present day weddings as a means of visual cohesion, the OG ceremonial aspects of matching can also apply to group gifting.

We live in the age of social media where everything is shared, which means the likelihood that your wedding party will get a glimpse at what you gifted the other members is very high. In the words of the iconic Teddy Roosevelt via the queen of TikTok, @itsmetinx: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” To keep this toxicity away from what should be one of the happiest days of your life, we’ve got one golden rule — go Roman. By applying the understanding that uniformity limits jealousy, you can ensure that your gesture won’t generate group tension.

Another pro-tip for gifting your nearest and dearest: customization is key. The connection you have with each of your bridesmaids and groomsmen is unique, and a great way to honor that is by targeting gifts that can be tailored to each person individually — such as our Bamboo Initial Pendants or Zodiac Pendants. Jewelry is a great option because it’s also something that your wedding party can continually wear post wedding day. Look for jewels that are non-tarnish and hypoallergenic so that your gift can go from accessory to keepsake.

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